I’ve been helping make Thanksgiving dinner since I was
nine. We had just moved to Italy
earlier that year, and it was the first time my mom was in charge of cooking for the holidays. It was also the first year I got to help her cook anything, so I was on pins and needles with anticipation.
I was so excited that I spend most of the day scuttling
around the kitchen, poking my head over the counter to see what we were
supposed to next. We burned a casserole,
couldn’t get the turkey to thaw in the middle, and in general ruined half the
dishes. At one point my mom asked me to
take a dish out of the oven, and I was so eager to help that I forgot to put on
oven mitts. Half way from oven to
kitchen table, I realized my mistake and, deciding I was better off burning my
hands than my bare feet, I ran across the room to deposit the dish. My fingers blistered and bled, and I couldn’t
hold a pencil (or a fork) for at least a week.
Despite all the missteps and blunderings, that Thanksgiving
has never left my memory. Every year I
arrive at my parents’ house the night before to get the turkey in the brine, and
my mom and I laugh and tell stories about all the cooking mistakes we’ve made
over the years. The time she mistook
salt for sugar. The year my sister set
the stove on fire. The year I dropped a
twenty pound turkey into a bucket of brine and ended up with a mouthful of raw
turkey salt water. But above all, the
first year we cooked Thanksgiving dinner together.
This year, my husband has to work the week of Thanksgiving. So next week, I’ll be cooking in my own home, making a
small meal for just us and the kids. I
don’t intend to forget the oven mitts, and I’ve made enough pies that I doubt
I’ll burn the edges. I’m even
going to let my kids help mix things a few times. But I’m going to miss the late
pre-Thanksgiving talks with my mom. No
matter how great dinner turns out, I think my favorite will always be the
year my mom and I made every mistake in the book. I learned more from that one year of failure
than I would have if we’d stumbled our way into a Rockwell-esque feast.
So I’m thankful for mistakes. I’m thankful for the opportunity to learn and
grow, becoming a better person—a better mother, wife, daughter, writer, and
cook—along the way.
It’s a little early, but happy Thanksgiving, Prosers!
It's never too early for Thanksgiving. It makes me so happy when I remember early enough to be grateful all November long. Thanks for trading with me Trisha! Awesome post.
ReplyDeleteWhat a beautiful memory for you and your mom. For some reason those times when things go wrong are more cherished memories than those times when everything works out perfectly.
ReplyDeleteI'm thankful for mistakes too.
Happy (early) Thanksgiving. :)